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Resources for Coping with Grief and Loss: 
Local/Regional Grief support groups:


  • Adam's house, Shelton CT:  grief education and peer support; "We support children struggling with any type loss- parent, grandparent, sibling, aunt/uncle or friend. All programs are offered at NO-COST to participating families." (203) 513-2808 
  • Healing Hearts Center, Danbury (203) 303-9409 Support for adults and children of all ages
  • Center for Hope, Darien ​(203) 655-4693  Grief support groups for children
  • Westport Family Counseling General bereavement group meets Tuesday evenings (203) 227-4555 xt 5
(Scroll down for additional resources, including information re: loss related to suicide)
Tips for talking to children and supporting children who have experienced loss:

 From former WYS Director, Michelle Albright, PhD:
  • Keep the lines of communication open. The most important thing you can do for your children is to let them know you are willing and able to talk and listen.  Talk to your children and let them know they can share feelings, and ask questions. However, don’t be surprised (or overly concerned!) if children initially don’t want to talk; not unlike adults, children sometimes need time to process what they are hearing and feeling.  Rather than forcing a discussion, it’s best to let your children guide the conversation. As difficult as it may be for parents, children respect and respond best to the truth.  Honesty is key, so give accurate and developmentally appropriate information about what has happened.  And it’s okay to let children know when and if you don’t have an answer or want to wait and think or get more information before providing a response. 

  • Let children know it’s okay to feel anything and everything.  Children (and adults!) respond to grief and loss in many different ways with many different feelings. Acknowledge that normal responses to grief and loss include feeling upset, angry, numb, confused, and scared.  Children learn how to cope with grief and loss from the people around them, and it’s appropriate to show emotion after losing a friend or family member.  It’s okay to share your own feelings with your children as long as you can modulate them and they don’t overwhelm or overpower others. 

  • Monitor your children’s reactions and your own.  Grief affects our bodies as well as our minds, and children and adults may experience shifts in behavior, appetite, mood, sleep, and energy related to feelings of sadness and anxiety.  Some individuals may have trouble sleeping, eating, or paying attention. Others may have headaches or stomachaches, or lose interest in things that are usually enjoyable.  All of these are part of the normal experience of grieving.  However be on the lookout for more abrupt and intense shifts in mood and behavior.  And don’t ignore your own reactions because you are so concerned about your child’s.

  • Identify appropriate outlets and sources of support.  Although there is no universal formula for coping with grief, most children and adults do find effective ways to deal with their feelings.  However, no one can do it alone and we all need support from friends and family.  Encourage children to express emotions in appropriate ways and seek comfort from their friends and other trusted adults. 

  • Try to keep routines without being rigid.  Normalcy and order are often comforting for children who have experienced an unexpected loss or tragedy.  Try to keep to typical rituals and routines, however remain flexible in response to your children’s moods and behaviors.  For example, if your child is having difficultly concentrating while trying to complete homework give them an extra break or the opportunity for some activity or exercise to vent some physical and emotional energy. 

  • Be there for each other Children of any and all ages need the comfort of parents when the world around them seems unsettled.  You don’t need to hover or crowd, but do let your children know you are there and available for extra hugs, extra time, and extra care. ​


General resources on grief and loss


  • Helping your child comfort a grieving pal "I love the idea of framing it as a family value that you decide upon and live by. We show up. We help. We listen. We push aside our own awkward feelings, because our own awkward feelings aren't the point."

  • What's your Grief? Extensive resources about grief for people of all ages and all situations.



  •  is a  NYTimes post about  how adolescents cope with grief and tragedy that is great for parents of tweens and teens 


  • HERE is a helpful article from Child Mind Institute with  guidelines for discussing frightening news with children. 


Suicide Loss
  • How to Talk To Your Teen About Suicide  Recommendations for speaking with your teenager about suicide, in the aftermath of a suicide event and ideally, in advance of a crisis.